Sunday, April 20, 2008

Sunday, Sunday, Sunday

Hi everyone,

The boys are doing better. They still cough during the day but not during the night. They don’t seem as congested as they did before. Rich is doing alittle better. Hopefully, tomorrow he will get even better. He has some nasty looking phlem coming up from his lungs. This really came on quick. He never gets sick and we are really surprised that he got it. He is trying to get rest, drinking hot tea, hot soup, and sweating it out at night. Cyndie tell the good doctor – thank you…we will get some honey next time we are at the store. We’ll try anything and I’m sure the boys will like it to. I forgot to let you know that we had a first yesterday – the very first throw up! It came on really fast…Vlady was playing hard before lunch and then feverishly drank down his soup…about 2 minutes later..he said …oh oh oh…and Rich and I thought he was trying to cough up a “luggie” but then all of the sudden…everything came up…all over Vlady, alittle on Rich and a lot on the floor. We cleaned everyone up and it didn’t even phase Vlady. He sat back down and finished his crackers. Today was a better day. We had a few tantrums before 3 p.m. but after 3 it got better. They get really excited when I or Rich begin making dinner (or lunch)..the come in and want to see and touch all the food and find out what is on the menu and look for samples too! We are really scared that they will burn themselves on the stove b/c it is so low and very accessible and they always want to touch it. So we told them they can only look and talk to me through a little window from the dining area to the kitchen. There is a picture of them looking through it at me yesterday. They are also really, really fast and if there is just one moment where either of us is not paying attention and they stick their little finger up there – yikes!! So they have been pretty good about staying away while preping for meals. Today we went to the White Rabbit to play for an hour. They have a pool table and the boys like to roll the balls around. There is also a calculator up there that someone left and they like to pretend that they are working the numbers on it too. It breaks up the day. We went for a walk down to the ocean today. It was really crowded with families picnicking b/c it is Sunday. There are like little wooden gazebo type things that the families eat in and hang out in. The boys saw a few trains too so they were happy. Katie – HI! We will pick you up a matrushka doll if we go shopping and if we don’t we’ll buy something up front and then send it to you. The lullaby CD doesn’t have any writing on it, so when we get home I’ll have to email you the website as it was typed out on a piece of paper for us from Alex and Krista the friends that gave it to us. Alex and Krista if you’re reading this and you remember the website can you leave a comment with it? If you don’t remember, that’s okay too. Glad to hear that Anastiya is doing well and better. We’ll have to email each other pics periodically to see how are kids are changing. Well tomorrow is day 10!!! At midnight tomorrow, it will be official - ! Tomorrow we will eat out at the White Rabbit to celebrate! Pano and Sperry thanks for all of your encouragement. We are feeling the same as you did and it’s good to know it’s normal. Thank you so much for commenting everyday…we look forward to reading your insight. It seems that if we tire the boys out on a long walk and they don’t nap even though they have the opportunity, they fall asleep alittle easier at night. That’s what happened tonight…they fell asleep after the ritual two trips to the bathroom and 4 or 5 trips carrying toys out of their room before they fall asleep…not sure if they did this at the orphanage or not but they will take toys in to their room and then bring them all out of their room. We had the boys say what will be their new address at dinner tonight…they said CALIFORNIA, then CAMINO RECONDITO, then FULLERTON. It was cute to hear them say it. We then told them all the things that we would do in CALIFORNIA and that we would all be going as a family. A cute thing that Vlady did was that he noticed that Rich and I had all of our bags in our bedroom on a rack…so Vlady and Alex have rolly backpacks which were spontaneously kept by the TV in the living room when we first brought them to the hotel with us. So Vlady came out and got his Spiderman backpack and set it on the rack with our bags…as if to say…remember that I am going with you…or that this is where all the important bags are kept so I better put mine by theirs…not sure what he is thinking though. They love Sesame Street DVDs too but who doesn’t…Rich and I still love watching too…!! Tonight Vlady was dancing to the Silly Songs DVD. Alexei just looks wide eyed at the screen. Okay, off to bed – bye for now until tomorrow…have a good day…Sunday for you and Monday for us! The weather here has been beautiful…buds and flowers coming up! We love you! Rich, Jayne, Vlady, Alex, Jotsi

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

hi jayne, rich, alexei, and vladimir,
we look forward to reading what you write each day, and we especially like the pictures. you must be getting anxious to get home and settled in. maybe once youre at home it will be easier to get adjusted. the boys seem very happy in the pictures as well as you and rich. keep the photos coming and take care... you'll soon be on your way home!
Chuck, Cindy, Stephanie, and Sarah

Anonymous said...

Hi Jayne & Rich,

Wow! We can't believe that you have been gone for so long and still have some time left. It's kind of like it's some sort of survival test, isn't it? We're praying that the rest of the time will go by fast for you. We felt like "Let's go, we want to go home and start really parenting these kids and get on with our family." We never felt like we were in control or very comfortable until we were back in the good old U.S. of A. We were lucky that the ten-day period was waived for us (we were told to ask though later we found out that future couples were not granted this). Besides craving ice for a cool drink (Russians seem to like sodas at room temperature-Yuck!), we don't think we wanted anything so bad as to go home.

We now know why the Pope kisses the ground! We sure felt like we wanted to do that when we arrived on U.S. soil. We've never been so glad to pull up in our driveway as we were when we had the first drive home. We're sure that Camino Recondito is crossing your minds several times a day!

Welcome to the club! We were peed on, sneezed & coughed on, and vomitted on, but our initiation began when we got home. Being with your newly adopted sick children does form a bond and each time they are ill, the bond will seem to be greater and greater. It's really a trust-building thing.

Don't be surprised that when you get home, the boys may regress (even though they are potty trained) and start needing to wear pull-ups. Taia, though fully trained began having accidents about a week or two after we got home. Our social worker said it was normal because she had missed this stage with us. She needed the pull-ups for about four months until one day she announced that she was a "big girl" and no longer needed them. She was fiercely independent and wanted to change the pull-ups herself (more shouting and fist waving). It was so weird to see an almost four year old change her own diaper. Early on, we learned the meaning of "sehmah" which means "by myself." She didn't want us to dress her or even comb her hair. Daria on the other hand, wanted us to do everything and she became ten a week after we got here. So we had the two extremes.

We had the two extremes in personalities too. Taia wasn't in her home for very long so she was not held and shown affection very much. The caretakers did not like her spunky spirit and her being so vocal, so she was not well-liked there. In fact, we're sure that the orphanage is still continuing the going away party to this day. Daria, on the other hand, who lived for part of her life with her grandmother, was very affectionate (especially when while we were in the orphanage but got an attitude as soon as she knew she was adopted). When we returned home, we had to deal with the behaviors (of course, remember they were scared and everything was new to them). As time progressed, Daria went back to her old loving and affectionate ways but Taia was a bit harder to crack. Eventually though, after pretty much demanding the affection, it seemed to come more natural to her and now, we sometimes can't get her to stop playing and kissing us. Just remember that these kids have to learn a lot of behaviors, kind of like teaching them to tie their shoes. These kids need to learn how to be in a family. So it's one more thing they need to be taught. Also, Taia's outgoing personality and spunk has served her well. They truly are different kids from the ones we brought home. Yesterday we went to church to help out with making palm crosses since it is Orthodox Palm Sunday today (is it for you Jane?) and wow, did they stand out from the rest! You couldn't meet two more sweet, fun, and well-adjusted kids. Of course we're bragging here but as parents, you'll become one of those "Aren't my kids amazing" types too. Hang in there. You'll soon be there in no time too!

Also, we forgot to mention that both wanted sippee cups though Daria gave hers up fairly quickly. We did hear of kids wanting to be bottle fed but ours got over it after a few times. Psychologically, they just want to make up for lost time and this is part of the normal bonding process. Don't be surprised that if you come home, these things start happening.

We're praying and lighting candles for your quick and safe trip home. We hope you're feeling better and better each and every day. Talk to you tomorrow.

Love,

Pano, Sperry, Daria, & Taia

Anonymous said...

Hi Jayne and Rich! EGADS! A vomiting episode. I gotta tell you, I would have been puking! Laughs. I have a strong stomach except for VOMIT. YUCK! Welcome to parenting, I guess, huh? Laughs. THANK YOU THANK YOU for picking us up a gift...hopefully matroyshka, but whatever. THANK YOU! I appreciate it VERY much.

YES! We will definately share pictures!! I can't wait to hear more about your trip home and first weeks at home! I can't believe how much Anastiya is learning EVERY day. She is really starting to imitate our language at this point. She has started taking baths, brushing her teeth, and going to bed better too...all problems we had while in Russia. It is amazing to watch it all unfold!

Enjoy your time in Russia....TRULY. Enjoy it. We are already missing our uninterrupted time. BUT we would only want to come back if all of our dogs were with us! Laughs!

Take care!
Katie and Sam

Anonymous said...

Hi Rich, Jayne, Vladimir and Alexei,

We love reading your blog too and seeing all of the new pictures. Jayne we love how you describe things, the little events are very vivid and we can imagine them happening. The boys look so happy and so much like little boys. My favorite is the picture of them trying on mom's shoes. Rich, we're sorry to hear that you are sick, we hope you feel better soon. Alex says, so you can work with the boys on some squats. The name of the website is www.adoptedfromrussia.com and the cd was called: Bedtime Stories and Lullabies The woman from the website was so nice and helpful. Have a wonderful time tomorrow at your first restaurant dinner.

мы пропускаем вас (We miss you!)

Tchau,
Alex and Krista

Anonymous said...

Hi Guys- Sorry I havent been in touch....not on the computer much lately.....but I am enjoying reading your messages. Glad to hear that everyone is feeling better. Not fun being sick esp. away from home. I can only imagine how anxious you are to come back.....I am anxious for you! May 2nd is just around the corner....hang on....it will be here before you know it. Sounds like the boys are giving you quite a work out!!!Im sure you are both exhausted by the end of the day. It will get easier once you get home and get into a regular routine....and are able to go drive places. The boys are absolutle going to love it here....cant wait to see how they react. Congrats on the end of the "offical" waiting period!!! Those 10 days were probably the longest 10 days you will ever have. Well, Im off to get the kids ready for bed...Im ready myself:) Hugs and kisses to all of you!!!Love you and talk to you soon!
Bern, Jeff, Nicholas and Abby

Anonymous said...

Hi Jayne and Rich and boys, This is my third attempt at writing, if this one doesn't post I will have to call Carol. I'm glad to hear everything is going well but sorry to hear about the illnesses. The first vomit story was funny. Jeff and I were first vomited on in bed at 3am. You always remember your first vomit. Well now that milestone has past for you it's nice to think of all the others to come. We have been following your stories and the pictures are really cute. The boys do look much different then in January-a bit bigger and now have a special twinkle in their eyes. Don't get caught up on every little thing or you'll go nuts, follow your instincts and make mistakes like we all do, don't overanalyze just move on. Remember Mom, "keep it simple." Your kids aren't like anyone elses and visa versa. Well it's bedtime here and Lucy just came down to ask me if I would rather eat a pencil or a toothbrush? So with that burning question I will end my third letter and hope that it goes through. Congratulations to all of you on becoming a wonderful family of four. God Bless all of you and take care. Much Love Becky Jeff and girls!!!

Suzie Park said...

Hi Jayne and Rich and boys!
WEll, this is my second attempt at writing to you. I guess I learn to be a blogger one way or another. Anyway, it's been good to read your updates! You guys are doing great. Hang in there - these early days together are tough but well worth all the "labor." The boys look beautiful. How wonderful to look at your pictures and witness the miracle God has done to put your family together. WE're praying for you to have a safe journey home. We look forward to hearing from you and encouraging you when you get home. Everything will settle down and you'll look back on these days with a smile. Blessings from the Park Family - Bob, Suzie, Connor and Kaylie

Anonymous said...

Hi Jayne, Rich and boys,
I've been following your journey through the link on Nina's blog. Just wanted to say hang in there and that lots of people at home (even though home for me is Michigan) are praying for your safe and speedy return. I'd love to meet you guys on my next trip to CA. Enjoy your bonding time, just think of all the character building you're doing through this experience. Take care and God bless,
Cathy (Nina's sister :)

photography said...

Happy "It's Official Day"! Can't wait to hear about the celebration. I'm heading off on another hike to the top of San Pedro with Jotsi and Frau. Buns of Bethlehem steel brought to you by Rusty Wegman, AKA Jotsi! Seriously, he is the best workout machine in the world. Hope you enjoyed the pics of his treadmill fascination. We've decided he is a Cancer, like you Jayne. And as for Lucy's question...I'd eat the pencil. Can't wait to see those boys with all of their cousins back in PA. Hope everyone is feeling better today. Love, kisses and hugs to all!
Aunt Carol

Anonymous said...

hi jayne, rich and our two newest cousins--vlady and alex--
wow-just read all of the cute stories and saw the pictures--had no idea about this blog stuff (eric knew a little) it is hard to belive i work on a computer 8+ hours a day and mainly the only thing i know is how to fill rxs.
but this is great. i am sure you two will be a great mama and papa, no doubt about it. sounds like you are experiencing all the normal moments of raising children. vlady and alex sound like great children. i bet is exciting to see them experience new things, even things we take for granted. guess we dont realize how lucky we are sometimes. keep writing when you can....you will be home before you know it. love ya lots
patti and eric

Anonymous said...

I love reading about your daily adventures. Rich, make sure you take care of yourself and see a Dr. if it isn't going away with rest and honey! It sounds like everything is going well...and as expected! Limits tested and laughs! I am sure you are doing a great job and building a wonderful foundation. We miss you and can't wait for you to come back with the boys to the States! They will need to try a Slurpee! :)

Love you,
Susan

Anonymous said...

Hi everyone:

Love seeing the pictures. Nothing cuter than a toddler sleeping. Sounds like you are getting all the normal testing of a toddler too. I'm still trying to keep Andrej under control, but he knows which buttons to push. They learn quickly so be strong. Sounds like your doing well though. Hope you all feel better soon. And another thing, I have understood all of the Russian words that you have written, including the one from your friend referring to "sehmah" which is almost exactly the same way we say "by my self" in Slovenian. So you can always call me for translations (my dad also speaks a little Russian). Take care and look forward to more of your postings and pictures.

Love,
Alie, Jason and Andrej

Nina said...

Hello Clodfelter Family (Doesn't that sound nice!!),

We are anxiously awaiting our arrival back home! Time is just flying here for us, I hope it flies just as quickly for you. We don't have our "official" Travel Approval yet, but I talked to our agency the other day and she kind of thinks that it will be sometime towards the end of May. She said it could be as early as mid-May, but it looks like it will be before June! Wow-that's like one month from now!! We did go ahead and get our visas. They look very official -how cool!

Our bathroom is still torn apart, but coming together a little at a time. We are putting updates on our blog. You can check it out if you get a chance:

www.journeytochinaforgrace.blogspot.com

Pano & Sperry: Thanks for sharing so much information about your family. We, too, are benefitting from your advice. We are getting ready to travel to China to adopt our son who just turned 4 in January.

-Nina & Gary